Dare to Dream
The following was inspired by a post I read on a Facebook Homesteading group page. A woman posted the following;
“Am I the only one who feels this way? I can fix things, build things, cook, clean and do whatever needs to be done around the house and beyond. I enjoy the company of others, and I enjoy my alone time, I can take care of myself. I’d like to share my life with a partner, or maybe not, I don’t know.”
Another woman posted; “I prefer to be alone.”
My reply:
You are not alone. I have coached/mentored many clients through the same “partner/no partner/what kind of partnership” exploration.
The bottom line is that humans are tribal beings. It’s in our DNA to not only seek a mate, but to also seek our tribe. It’s what we do. It’s why we’re part of this group.
I call BullShit on anyone who says that they prefer to be alone. If that were true, they wouldn’t be in this group or on Facebook at all. I believe it would be more accurate and truthful to say that we value our freedom – autonomy – independence. The real challenge is in not giving away, or simply loosing, our autonomy to any relationship.
How do we love another deeply without losing our autonomy? How do You and I not get lost in Us? Mastering that is where the real gold is.
Know thyself and to thyself be true. Then know what you want from another. Show up as your true and authentic self, unapologetically you.
The Universe/Spirit/God (or whatever name you prefer to use. I like to call it Life.) always says yes. We just need to get clear about what we desire, place our order with great attention to detail, and then prepare to receive. Oh yes, you must prepare to receive. This is very important. We humans do a lot of asking, yet we rarely prepare to receive what we’ve asked for. Oftentimes, we reject what was ordered and delivered because we just aren’t willing or ready to be the person we would be required to be if our dreams were fulfilled. It’s easy to complain about what we don’t have. Not so easy to step into being the person who has it all.
What if all your dreams and desires were to be fulfilled? Then what? Who would you need to Be if that happened?
What do you really want your relationships to look like, feel like?
Who are you ready and willing to Be in relationship?
What would you love your love life to look like?
Dare to dream!
Life always says yes, and Life will always give you what you are ready for.